Role of The Parent
When your child begins their Taekwondo journey, it is important to monitor his/her progress. Your participation in their training can simply be achieved by watching and observing them while they are in class. This encourages them to progress, while you are able to get a feel for your child's strength and weaknesses. It also creates an opportunity for communication about their training on your way home from class.
Our goal at Clemmons Family Martial Arts is to help develop the character skills that will help your child achieve and reach their full potential in all that they do in their daily lives. Each skill level and belt rank that your child attains becomes increasingly more challenging and difficult. Your encouragement and empowerment will help your child to understand that persisting and persevering until you have reached your goals is a worthwhile and honorable achievement.
Many times a young student will get very sick and won't be able to attend their weekly sessions. Fever, diarrhea, nausea, etc. are good examples of why a student would not, and should not attend class. On the other hand, headaches, small coughs, and other mild ailments should not prevent your child from attending class. The same stands true for injuries. Breaks, major sprains, surgery etc. are very good reasons as to why you would not attend class. The frequent playground and recess scrapes and bruises however should not be an excuse or reason as to why your child would not attend class.
Building character means that sometimes we have to go out of our comfort zone and persevere through the small things. Even if your child can't perform at class, they can learn and retain a great deal from watching and still receive credit for attending. This also keeps them consistent with their training. Helping your child work through the little things creates persistence and perseverance in their character. It also gives you the opportunity to help your child discern between being sick and injured and just not feel like coming to class!
One of the most important aspects of our programs at Clemmons Family Martial Arts is to stress the importance of setting goals and persisting until you achieve them. There will be times in your child's Taekwondo journey when they will not want to come to class or lose momentum in their training.
There are many reasons for this. The main two reasons are: Techniques and training becomes more difficult, and the other is being too tired or disinterested in coming to class. At these times it is important for you, the parent, to make your child understand the difference between helping them to follow through on a goal that they agreed to, and/or force feeding something on them.
It is unrealistic for your child to not experience these moments in their training. It does however give you the opportunity as their parent, to teach your child the benefits and advantages of not quitting on a goal, and the rewards one can experience by following through. Quitting can become a very bad habit, and creates a lifetime of excuses as to why we never finish what we begin.
Many times when a student experiences a bad run of luck, and gets in trouble at school or at home, parents will respond by handing down consequences. It is important to remember that consequences, punishment or disciplinary measures should always be equal to the infraction.
Many times parents call us and say "my son or daughter will not be coming to Taekwondo because he/she was a bully at school today". Many times a parent will say that their son or daughter won't be coming to Taekwondo because of poor academics or just a plain bad attitude towards everyone and everything.
We implore you to not use Taekwondo as a means of disciplinary measure by taking it away from your child. On the contrary, since we are a character building school, we can be the very institution that can help you and your child to get back on track, and to learn techniques that will prevent them from losing self-control. Taekwondo and Clemmons Family Martial Arts can help you hold your child accountable only if they come to class. Taking Taekwondo away as a disciplinary measure or consequence should never be a consideration.
Always reaffirm, discuss and communicate the goals that your child has for himself/herself, and expectations that you have for them. It is also important, that from time to time to effectively communicate with the instructors at Welcome to Clemmons Family Martial Arts, so we can help reinforce those goals and expectations. Using repetition to master technique leads to self-confidence. Self-confidence leads to self-esteem. Self-esteem leads to dreams, and dreams lead to a vision.
When a young person reaches this level they have formed a blueprint in which they can always accomplish and achieve their goals. None of the above happens if your child doesn't feel motivated. Staying with a goal without quitting is an integral skill that has to be instilled by the parents. Quitting is the foundation of underachieving and failure. Starting something is easy. Finishing what you begin is difficult.
Constant communication with your child about them achieving their goals will help you recognize if they are on track to completing their task or contemplating quitting or stopping. Constant communication and motivation are tools that empower your children to see their visions materialize. Every level of student from White Belt to Black Belt experiences a moment of doubt in their training and sometimes contemplates quitting. If your child makes it to Black Belt, then you should know that you were a parent that helped your child achieve their goals.
Remember: "A Black Belt is Just a White Belt Who Never Quit"